Friday, July 13, 2012

Memorable Quotes About Love

Love is an incredible emotion or feeling, it can bring out the best in people and it can also bring out the worst. It is so powerful that it can transform individuals. Here are some quotes from those who have tried to sum up this emotion in words.

"At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet." -Plato

The Greeks knew it, the birds and the bees knew it, and whether we are strolling alongside our first school crush, or trying to find the perfect match on our favourite dating sites, we know what it means to be in love.

As the power behind the "face that launched a thousand ships," it is hard to argue with the notion that love is one of the strongest of all human emotions. Love has started wars and ended friendships, brought together feuding households and turned the greatest of men weak at the knees. For thousands of years men and women have tried to distil the great emotion down to truest form. Millions of words have been written, in care, in jest, in despair and in hope to find the absolute beauty that exists behind so simple a word and so complicated a feeling.

Arguably the greatest of all English-language writers, William Shakespeare is perhaps as well known today for his musings on love as he is for his plays. Whether he was comparing "to a summer's day," or observing- "Love is a spirit all compact of fire," or simply questioning, "Who ever loved that loved not at first sight?" the insights of the bard have helped to shape our view of romantic love from dating sites to Valentine's Day cards.

Still, Shakespeare was not the first and he would not be the last to catch love in a bottle. In the years since, perhaps John Donne has given us some of the most useful understandings for the great emotion. After all, the poet is the one who implored us remember, "Love built on beauty, soon as beauty, dies," and "Love, all alike, no season knows, nor clime, nor hours, days, months, which are the rags of time.

Then again, perhaps we should from the poets to the scientists, where even one of the greatest of all time, the man who unlocked many of the secrets to our physical universe was at such a loss he would throw up his hands, declaring that even "the laws of gravity cannot be held responsible for people falling in love." Of course, Albert Einstein, the father of relativity, did not think love and science as mutually exclusive; "When you sit with a nice girl for two hours, you think it's only a minute. But when you sit on a hot stove for a minute, you think its two hours. That's relativity.

Perhaps, in the end, it is as F. Scott Fitzgerald's great love Zelda Fitzgerald, said, "Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold."

Healing Your Spiritual Self to Attract the Love You Deserve

If your love life is an endless stream of non commitment from lovers, or the wrong person, or relationships that never last or work out-it is due to the programming replaying in your mind. This programming is a result of what we experienced during our formative childhood years. Children who have loving and positive childhoods develop into loving and happy adults. Children who endure physical, mental and verbal abuse in childhood develop into needy, desperate and insecure adults who do not have self-love for themselves. Unless a person does get some type of therapy, those programs get worse overtime and as a result the person has a life of unfulfilled love in relationships.

As adults we adapt to these programs and find it easier to keep repeating them than doing the work to change the program. Our egos tell us we have no problem; but instead we blame the significant others in our life for causing the problems in the relationships. However, we can heal and learn to love ourselves in order to attract the right person to us. Healing yourself takes work and is not an overnight process-it is a lifelong process. However, because negative memories never completely go away-we learn how to cope with and control our reaction to the memories.

There are effective methods you can do right now that will start you on the path to understanding and loving yourself. Of course this healing process requires placing our trust into God and our angels to help us release our ego driven needy behavior, desperation and loneliness. But first, remember and commit this to memory, "I can attract a healthy loving person who loves me, if I love myself first".

For spiritual healing to be effective, we have to accept that we do have a problem and need help. Also the prayers in this article can be copied down and should be repeated anywhere and anytime as needed. This prayer will help you release your negative programming. "My dear God, and my angels I need your help. Please be with me, and guide me. I am letting go and giving you're all my ego based and destructive desperation, needy behavior, fears, sadness, frustrations and any other negative emotions that keep me from the happiness, peace and love I deserve. I ask that you fill my empty void with your love and kindness. I am worthy of all you have to offer. I am sorry and please help me to forgive myself. I love you and I love myself. Thank you".

The other prayer that will help in releasing the blame and anger you may have towards your parents or caretakers and or those in both friendships and romantic relationships is: "Dear Lord, I give to you the anger, the pain, frustration, and the blame that I am feeling towards all those who have hurt me. Please forgive me and them, I love you my dear Lord, I love myself. Thank you." The reason we ask for forgiveness for ourselves, is that we our responsible for both the choices we made in our relationships and for the changes we choose to make. It is also our responsibility to heal our own emotional empty void. No one on plant earth can do it, so that is why we ask God and our angels for help.

The next step is to write down all the negative emotions, rage and anger we feel towards those who have hurt us. Then we go through each item and feel the emotional impact and let it all go. After we have spent our emotional reaction on each item this is the pray to say, "Dear Lord and my dear angels, I give you these negative emotions. Please keep my mind free from them. I love and forgive myself and I love you. Thank you". The challenge as you go through your healing is that your old memories are familiar and may want to stay. However, when you find yourself thinking of them-stop and pray: "My dear God, take this memory away now-I do not need it. Thank you. I love you".

Also during your healing process anxiety may rear its ugly head and cause you to talk endlessly about it to family and friends. However, this may drive them away and they may start avoiding you. This pray will help you through the anxiety. "Dear God, please give me the strength to overcome this anxiety and not burden my family and friends with my anxiety. I ask you to take it away now. I love you and thank you". There are support groups in the community you can attend and talk with others if need be. Remember--you are worthy and deserving of love!



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The Gift of Life and the Presents It Brings

I wonder if you see life as a gift or whether, like me, you have been guilty of taking it all for granted? Too often we get so caught up in the busyness of daily life, drawn in by all the problems and dramas, that it is too easy to forget to remember the incredibly amazing gifts we hold in our hands.

This article could be about reminding you of friends, loved ones, acquaintances who have already passed on and who would maybe have relished a little more time. It could be about reminding you that right now, while you are reading this, there are many people clinging to life and fighting all sorts of disease and hardships, hoping against hope for just a bit longer. It could also be about asking you to take a look around you at the beggar on the street corner, the people who are suffering from poverty and lack throughout the world and being grateful you're not walking in their shoes but, I wouldn't tell you to do that because, it's not about that at all.

I'm curious to know whether you ever think about the other type of gifts that life delivers to us? I wonder if you ever wonder about the presents that present themselves in the form of problems? If you can see the gift they present in the form of an incredible feeling of accomplishment as we stretch and flex our imaginations to reach the solutions. Do you walk through your garden and tut at the weeds without noticing the flowers?

Can you imagine how silly it is to forget to remember about our presents such as the present moment, the only moment you are sure of having. Will you store up the gift of happiness for later and say I'll be happy when... or will you accept it now?

I wonder if you will take this present moment to stop what you're doing and really notice all the gifts you already have, right now? Will you choose to marvel in the beauty of life, the uniqueness of all the people who fill your life? Will you take the time to stop for a moment to think about all the joys they bring and give thanks? Do you even notice or has much of this become something just taken for granted?

I wonder if you ever really take the time to wonder...



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Thursday, July 12, 2012

He Hasn't Said I Love You Yet? What This Really Means for Your Relationship

There's a very special moment in every romantic relationship that a woman holds her breath for. It's when your man tells you he loves you. Ideally, he'll say it first and it will happen in a wonderful, memorable place. You'll remember everything about the second those fateful words left his lips. The shirt he was wearing, how his hair was styled and what his cologne smelled like will all become important nuances of the moment when you both knew that you were going to be life partners. It all sounds so dreamy and ideal, doesn't it? From experience, most of us know that it typically doesn't go that way. He'll usually blurt out the words at the most inopportune time like when we're stopped at a red light or during a football game. Regardless of the circumstances of the delivery, the words are still meaningful and relationship changing. Sadly, not all men reach a point where they feel comfortable sharing those words. If it's now been months or even years and he hasn't said I love you yet, what exactly does that mean for you and your future with him?

Never Forget How Different You and Your Man Are

I've often heard women say that they wish men were more like them. In some ways, that would be wonderful, but essentially we love men because they are men. Your man doesn't process his feelings the same way you do. If he falls in love with you at first sight, chances are very good that he's not going to share that news with you until months into the relationship. The same is true of the man who falls in love with his woman at a slow pace. He's not going to give you updates about what he's feeling. Men just aren't wired that way.

Sharing deep and meaningful feelings to a man makes him feel emotionally vulnerable. It's very much like he's taking the armor off his heart and he's putting himself in the line of fire. If you don't react favorably to his declaration of adoration or if you say something hurtful, it will pain him in a way that nothing else could. A man needs to feel very secure in his relationship before he'll be ready to blurt out that he loves you.

Pay Close Attention to His Actions Rather Than His Words

So much can be gained from really paying close attention to how your man acts when he's around you. There are certain behavior patterns that sync with a man who is truly and madly in love. You may believe that he's not in love unless he says the words, but don't discount how he treats you. For a man who is struggling with opening himself up to the point where he does indeed feel very vulnerable, his actions can give you great insight into what is in his heart.

A telling example is the man who rushes through his day so that he can spend as much time as possible with the woman he adores. Nothing matters quite as much to him as seeing her smiling face at the end of his workday. The same is true of the man who sends a few text messages or emails during the day. His mind is clearly on the woman he cares for. Any small gestures like this should be viewed for what they are and that's a strong sign that his heart is focused on the woman in his life.

See His Commitment to You as a Sign of What's in His Heart

If a man has stopped dating other women and his focus is always just on you, he's smitten. Men are notorious for wanting to play the field. Once a man stops looking, thinking about and seeing other women you should take note of that. He may not have said that he loves you outright but the fact that he's lost interest in other attractive women speaks volumes about how he views you.

This is especially clear if he's suggested that you don't see other guys or that you two just date exclusively. If he does mention this, it obviously means that he wants you to himself and that generally has a lot more to do with a man's heart than his ego.

A man in love wants to draw a tight circle around the woman who is the center of his world. He doesn't want the threat of any other men on the horizon and he doesn't have eyes for any other women either. His focus is clear and he'll ask you to focus on him too.

Be Wary of a Man Who Doesn't Seem Connected Emotionally to You

As much as you want to hope that he does love you, even if he has yet to say it, you do need to be mindful of the fact that his reluctance to express it is based on the fact that he just doesn't feel it. If you've told your boyfriend that you love him and you're met with dead silence, or he changes the subject very quickly, it's easy to jump to the assumption that he isn't in love and just is very uncomfortable talking about the subject at all.

Some men will work hard at avoiding any discussion about feelings. They'll say things like, "I'm not ready for a serious relationship yet, " or "love is overrated." If your guy has expressed similar sentiments to you, you have every right to be discouraged by that. He's telling you, in a very roundabout and non-compassionate way that he's just not feeling the same things you are.

It's up to you to determine whether or not you want to continue to invest yourself in a relationship like this. Granted, over time his position may change and he may decide that he does indeed love you. Perhaps a bit of time apart, as in a short-term relationship "break" might help him see the light. There's a chance it won't though.

Just remember that all men are different and even though some are quick to say those three meaningful words, other men just can't fathom saying, "I love you," to any woman unless they're on the verge of proposing to her. It's up to you to decipher your man's actions and read between the limes to truly see what's in his heart.

The Top 3 Ways to Make Him Want You More

We all want our man to be intoxicated with us don't we? Our ideal is where our man falls deeper and deeper in love with us the longer he knows us. We love hearing those men who say of their women... I love her more today than when I first met her. We want a man who loves us more and more each day; and we do not the reality that we see around us of men who love their women less and less with each passing day. So how do you make him love you more and more each day? What can you do to make him want you more?

1. Be yourself... and stay yourself! You need to be authentically you if you want to make him want you more. Who are you? What things do you like? What things do you dislike? Stay true to yourself and who you are. Remember that you matter in the relationship just as much as he does, so do not deny who you are and your needs. For some reason we think that if we deny ourselves and do only those things that he wants that he will want us more but sadly that doesn't work. He will want you more if you are value yourself as much as you value him.

2. Earn your respect in the relationship. For him to want you more he must love and respect you, what you stand for and who you are. If he has done something that has upset you then let him know... and do not let him dismiss your feelings. Be assertive and say what you mean... and mean what you say. Don't make threats that you will not carry out... actually don't make threats at all. Think of someone who you respect... how do they behave? That's how you need to behave. Disagree without being disagreeable; give and receive compliments and encouragement; express love and affection appropriately; and discuss your thoughts and feelings without feeling threatened and anxious or without the need to scream and shout. You want your daily interaction with him to deepen his love for you so that he wants you more each day.

3. Be all woman and happy at that! For him to want you more... you have to be fully living and enjoying life as a feminine woman. What invigorates you and keeps you excited about life? What stretches you and makes life the challenge that it was meant to be? Then get fully engaged so that you look and feel great.

To make him want you will mean that your daily interaction with him should deepen his love for you. These 3 ways will ensure that his love for you deepens.



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When Men Go A-Cooking

I am a true African Man. Born where the heat of the Sun thickens the skin. Over Land and over Sea, different cultures I have seen with the same way of doing this same thing. So many times I have watched my mother and several other women, so I submit that most of them are wired to do it by instincts. Then now, as a man, it seems to me, that being in a relationship with a woman is like "cooking soup". The deliciousness depends on the skillfulness of your hands, the availability and *timely* application of all the required ingredients in the appropriate measure;... acceptance, patience, tolerance, respect, commitment, care, concern, faithfulness, integrity, consideration, understanding and so on. Some of these ingredients as freely given by mother nature and others are purchased from Life's Store; a place you can never visit empty-handed. Dedication, Determination and Discipline are the prices you pay. Haven't you realized that the true issues of life don't come cheap or for free? How on earth will humans value them if they do?

Who can ever underestimate the importance of time in the cooking process? There is time for everything. A time to apply and a time to extract. A time to add and a time to remove so it doesn't crumble into the soup. A time to stir and a time to let it simmer. A time to prepare and a time to "set-up" for the process. A time to wait until it gets done and a time to clean up utensils for future use.

Water, the chief cornerstone of every cooking. Transparency and purity are such vital keys in every relationship.

A woman's heart is the Pot; out of it comes the issues of life. Her mind is the firewood; she is transformed only when it is renewed. Her feelings for you is the fire that burns her mind. And Money is the fuel that dictates the intensity of the fire. The more filled your pocket is, the better the burning. Hey! Am I implying that a woman's feelings for her man depends on money? Hell No! But believe it or not, women have burning needs that need to be attended to. One major way to show you really care for her is to provide some, if not all, of those needs. Her NEEDS I said, not her wants. There must be a burning under the pot. A fire that begins with a spark. And there can never be a spark without a strike. Our grandfathers worked with stones, our fathers with matches, and for us, now its lighters... regardless of the era, it, most times, takes more than a strike to get a spark. And that strike that ignites her burning for you is nothing else but your own burning for her. You strike and the feelings burn on you first before you transfer them to her. Take a quick second and let's compare the magnitude and intensity of what burns on you with what it becomes when it gets to her. Another proof of the fact that women are multipliers? A drop of sperm you give her today becomes a living being after nine months. Would I then be making a mistake at this juncture if I swallow my pride, lower my colour and admit that a good woman is the best thing that can ever happen to any man on planet earth. Finally, there must be a support on which the pot (her heart) sits, under which the firewood (her mind) are carefully laid. The "yorubas", the tribe (in Nigeria) where I come from, a race full of energy, elegance and dignity, generally refer to this support as *Aro Meta*. A stand that is well-known and trusted for its unequivocal stability & strength. *A man who finds a woman whose heart is supported by The Lord has found a good thing and obtained favour from Him.* Such a man has absolutely nothing to fear, when his woman's heart rests comfortably on a spirit, soul & body that has completely dissolved into God the Father, Jesus the Son and the Holy Spirit; the Aro Meta* that has never, can never & will never capsize your pot.

So keep cooking guys! Ensure that the aroma is inviting but let no one else come close to having a taste of it. You are so permitted to be stingy, selfish and self-centered in this context. The Meal in question is all yours alone. So when it is done, SIT DOWN and enjoy it all by yourself... and remember that your children will be products of what you make of the cooking. So do the very Best you can to make it the sweetest meal ever prepared. And above all, never forget that Paul may plant, Apollos may water; but it is God that gives the increase. And just in case you are wondering by what name our Great Soup is called...

They call it, We call it, You call it, I call it L-O-V-E!



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Boost Your Grief IQ

I recently listened to a radio show featuring a guest who talked about grieving. He maintained that most of us are illiterate about grief. He claimed that most people did it badly. He said we need to learn more about how to handle life's inevitable losses without resorting to escapism, denial, avoidance, isolation, addiction, or misdirected rage.

I agreed with most of the speaker's observations. And I feel that he really knocked the ball out of the park when he criticized the idea of "closure" as a myth. For example, I'm thoroughly disgusted whenever TV news anchors chatter about victims' seeking "closure" in courtrooms for their terrible and tragic losses. The talking heads' mention of "closure" is most outrageously absurd when they describe the reactions of parents to the conviction of a murderer for taking the life of a beloved son or daughter. Such moments of vengeance cannot possibly fully and finally relieve the pain of such losses.

The radio commentator went on to say that grieving is a process that must be endured, that it proceeds at its own pace no matter what the sufferer may wish, that some relief can be found by "processing feelings," sharing your pain by talking about it with others, maintaining a strong faith that the pain will abate over time, and developing a plan for replacing lost values with new and fulfilling goals and activities.

That's wise counsel, and I repeat it here once again only to endorse these ideas. But I'd like to add some observations from my own experience of losses and grieving.

When my own father died unexpectedly while I was still a young man, I learned a lot about grief on my own. I learned that it does diminish over time. In my dad's case, for example, he passed away over forty years ago, and I feel the pain of his loss far less acutely now than shortly after he passed. But time doesn't cure, or "close," such wounds. Thankfully, to a great degree they can and do heal.

Imagine that the amount of grief one will suffer from love lost can be represented as a line on a graph plotted over time. Taken at its simplest, that line would begin at left, at the point of its origin, at a much higher level than it would arrive at after a number of years. That implies a smooth and continuous rate of decline. But it's not so. Here are two critical differences:

The line of decline never can reach the baseline, never can "zero out" unless somehow the original loss is fully erased by a complete restoration - for example, when a divorced couple manages to successfully and happily reconcile.

The rate at which grief will decline is not at all smooth. Instead, it seems to bump downward in fractal waves. Rather than looking like a smooth ski slope, it more closely resembles a rock-strewn mountainside.

In my own case, for example, I would find myself suddenly and unexpectedly weeping about my loss of my father for up to a decade after his death. The frequency of such episodes did indeed decline over those first few years, but I was astounded at the unpredictable rate at which the wound seemed to reopen itself, sometimes with no provocation but an unhappy reflection. And even today, when I happen to explore my memories of times past, I still have to suppress the urge to shed a few tears about my father and what death tore away from me.

If you've suffered the profound loss of someone you loved within the too recent past, I pass on these observations to give you fair warning: be prepared for the unexpected eruption of more pain to come. Don't be embarrassed by it. Don't try to prevent it, either. It's all part of the process of grieving. Here's hoping that this will be a lesson you learn to use in the future, as you work on building your grieving intelligence.

In the meanwhile, I remain brightly yours: Mike Riley



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