Effective communication is very necessary in any relationship that is kin in growing stronger and stronger. Most relationship problems can be solved through effective communication in the relationship. I have read several posts on relationship communication but I think this particular one worth your time to read because you will learn something new.
When you talk of effective communication in relationship, you are talking about communicating in a standard that is very understanding between you and your partner. Most partners have gone on divorce simply because they failed to communicate with each other effectively. More than 60% of the world relationship break up is caused by lack of effective communication in the relationship. Hope your relationship does not fall into this categories of 60%, but if it is, you don't have to worry, because it can be fix after reading this post. Let look at very simple ways you and your partner can help build effective communication in your relationship:
Always listen to each other talk: one good way to communicate effectively in your relationship is to listen to your partner talk too. Most partners especially men; hardly listen to their female partners. This could be as a result of pride or they just lack the skills. Listening is also part of effective communication because it is only when you listen that you can hear and understand and then do the what. If your partner is talking to you, try as much as possible to listen to him/her. Nobody knows it all, everybody still learn one new thing or the other. So, learn to listen. Partners should form this skill as a habit; the skill of listening to each other. This can also be done by allowing or agreeing that each of you talk while the other listens. This should also be done one after the other. One advantage of this important skill is that it can help minimize misunderstanding in the relationship.
Learn to study your each other: most partners have quarrelled unnecessarily because they failed to study each other very well. This may be as a result of laziness or nonchalant attitude on the side of the partners. When you study your partner, you get to know what he/she likes and what turns him/her on any time and any day. The act of studying your partner takes time but can be done quickly by requesting that your partner takes a time out for vacation or something similar. This is to enable you both to ask each other questions relating to things each of you love and enjoy doing. This advice is for those partners who didn't know each other very well before going into the relationship.
Do not crucify your partner because of the way they felt over something: this is one big mistake lots of people make in relationship. You don't have to crucify your partner because he/she felt somehow over something. Take for instance, your partner was hurt emotionally because you did something which to you seemed very ordinary, and he/she complains to you that your action(s) hurt him/her emotionally. You don't have to nail him/her because he/she felt that way, all you have to do is calm him/her down, explain to him/her why you did that and explain to your partner that you saw it ordinary. You don't have to crucify your partner because he/she felt that way and you didn't. Remember that humans are very much different in the way they react to things. Now, if you are used to crucifying your partner each time something like this happens, he/she will then start looking for somewhere else to pure out the hurt feelings and you know it is not too good sharing any relationship problem outside the relationship. This is a very important way of building effective communication.
Partners should initiate separate and special time for communicating seriously: now, this does not mean that partners should not communicate with each other all the time but the essence of this is to fill in all the gaps the normal communication didn't fill. Take for instance, you and your partner have agreed to always make use of weekends to talk things out. I also recommend that such special days should be in lovely places where you and your partner can express love to the fullness.
Partner should give each other the opportunity to talk to when he/she requests for it: many partners are usually busy especially men. This has led to many partners suffering in silence: they don't have whom to share their pains and happiness with. Their partners are always busy. You should try never to be like those partners who are always busy and never ready to hear their partner out. Once your partner tells you that he/she wants to talk with you, please, abandon all you are doing and listen to him/her.
I hope these steps are very much helpful and apply them, you will see how the communication rate in your relationship will grow. Remember that communication is also expression and it is very important in any relationship.
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